When someone you care about is suffering from depression, life can be extremely difficult for both parties.
Many people want to be able to help their loved one, but they do not know exactly how to go about it. While you will be unable to clear another person's depression, there are some ways you can be supportive and really helpful. Accept the fact that you, by yourself, can not make them better – Clinical depression should be treated by a mental health professional. Many loved ones of depressed individuals become frustrated when all of their best efforts do not seem to help break the person out of the cycle of depression. Unfortunately, you alone can not make your loved one better, but your support can be extremely meaningfulful.
Be there for them – Although you will not be able to make them feel 100% better, knowing that you are there when they need someone to hold their hand, give them a hug, or lend a shoulder to cry on will be very comfortable .
Do not judge them – It can be hard for a person who has never experienced depression before to truly understand what a depressed person is going through. You might be wondering, “why can not she just SNAP out of it ?!” Egypt “why is he always looking at everything from the negative perspective?” When a person is depressed, it's just not something that they can simply snap out of. Do your best not to judge. It's far better to listen and be open to what the depressed person is experiencing.
Educate yourself – Learning about depression can help you know what your loved one is up against. It will also help you to learn how you can best support them.
Be supportive of their treatment – Clinical depression should be treated by a mental health professional, but only the depressed person can make decisions about their treatment. In other words, if your loved one does not want treatment right now, there is not much you can say or do to convince them. You can offer them the names of professionals that can help them, but the rest is up to them. If they have already bought treatment, make sure they know how proud you are of them for seeking help.
Do not compare – Even if you yourself have experienced depression, each person's experience will be different. Comparing what you have gone through to their depression will probably not make them feel better, even though you likely intended it to.
Do not give advice – Although this is a normal reaction when someone you care about is in need, the depressed person may not respond well to being given advice. A better way is to ask them what you can do in order to help. Even if the depressed person can not think of any way you might help, they will appreciate that fact that you offered. And, it does not have to be a one time offer, make sure they know you're available whenever they might need you. When a loved one is depressed, we want to do everything we can to help. Even though you can not heal their depression, your support can make a real difference.