If you have been unfortunate enough to experience even mild depression yourself, you know just how debilitating it can be; after all, depression makes you feel as though nothing is possible, and you believe that you are destined to fail at anything you attempt. In fact, depression can be debilitating to such an amount that you can end up having a desire to do nothing but sit around all day, wallowing in your self-pity – and of course, when you do this, you only end up feeling worse . Your actions are now supporting your limiting self belief that you are no good at anything and have no future.
More than anything however, depression can cause a person to feel like there is no way out of the struggle they are dealing with; oftentimes, people who are wrestling with severe cases of depression see suicide as the only way out – and this option becomes more and more attractive to them the longer the depression hangs around. As I read once, “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” How true this is.
If any of this sounds like something you have deal with yourself, the first thing you should be aware of is the fact that you need to acknowledge what you continuously telling yourself. Once you have become aware of the negative things that you say to yourself, you have the choice of whether you want to continue to treat yourself in such a damning way. You could ask yourself, “How would I react if someone talked to me the way I talk to myself.”
As you become aware of what you are doing to yourself you can choose whether you want to continue in the same manner or change your self talk.
When you talk to yourself in a negative manner you could ask yourself this is really true? What evidence do you have for that thought? Is that what others really believe is true? What if that was not true?
As you begin to question the internal dialogue that is going on in your mind, you have a chance of changing the beliefs that you have of yourself.
The mind is very effective in creating it's own reality. So if you have negative thoughts your brain will ensure that you act in such a way to reinvigorate that thought. If you choose to change your thoughts you may be very surprised to find that you act and feel different as well.
As you try and navigate a path out of depression you will only be successful if you change the way you talk to yourself. The choice is always yours as to whether you continue the way you are or take the effort to become aware of what you are doing and make the necessary changes.
I really believe the mindset you have affects the way you think and therefore the way you act.