Stalking can affect anyone, regardless of gender, age, race, socio-economic status or geographic location. According to data in the United States, 1 in 12 women and 1 in 45 men will be stalked in their lifetime. However, most stalking cases go unreported for various reasons, so the numbers are probably a good degree higher than reported.
It's important to mention this because one of the side effects of group stalking is the tendency for a victim to blame him or her herself. They may begin to believe that they must be a bad person, or at least a generally unlikable person, or have a particular psychological profile. None of this may be true.
Throughout my research what has become clear is that victims of group stalking harassment are typically normal people who have become “targeted” for some reason or another. In my own personal case, I simply asked a friend for a short break from the friendship. She has proven over and over again over the years that I had a good cause for pulling back.
The good news is that group stalking is a guilty-free situation, so you are free to stop blaming yourself. What is important right now is that you regain your sense of well-being, self confidence and hope for the future. This is easier said than done when your every moment may be compromised by the group that is stalking you. But take heart, it is possible.
Here I am going to give you three things that you can put into action right now that will begin to give you relief if you are suffering from criminal group harassment.
1. Do Not Engage
This is the most important thing I can tell you to do. The main goal you have before you is to break the circuit of energy between yourself and the group of stalkers, and to redirect your energy towards nourishing yourself and to those who do support you. Your survival depends on your willingness to take responsibility for your reactions and emotions.
Everything the group stalkers are doing, they are doing in order to extract emotional response from you. Every attempt will be made to “break” you psychologically. With the information the perpetrators have gathered, they may think they have a chance to carry this out, but once you know the game and have found tools and techniques for preserving sanity, there is no reason to succumb to either mental breakdown or suicide.
Starving them of your emotional and physical response will cause them to be exerting a tremendous amount of resources and energy to no avail. This is hard at first, but only because of what you are doing with your thoughts and your mind. Your thoughts bring about your emotions. So while it's hard at first, you must learn to be calm and take your mind off of them and their antics, and put it onto what you do want to experience in your life.
Think about friendships you have had for a moment. What happens when you do not respond to a friend's phone calls or invitations? They ever fall away. They fall away because there is no energy flowing from you to them. The same principle is in operation here, but it may take longer. In my experience, the group will escalate their efforts initially. They feed off of your reactions and feel success when they can evoke any response or attention from you. They are not going to give up easily, and there is power in their numbers. But if there is no physical threat, than there really is no reason to give them any thought at all.
Think of them as gnats. Annoying, yes, but would you go into a state of anxiety or fear if a gnat were circling about you? You do not need to do anything that you would not normally do. They are not going to go away because of any action you take towards them, and you will give them further ammunition. But you can dissolve the situation by withdrawing all of your emotional energy from them.
2. Do not Talk About the Situation
It may be necessary for you to talk about the group stalking if you are in counseling, but even there I would recommend discussing resolutions and keep away from discussion of the details of the harassment. To friends and family, make no mention. Again, your thoughts control your emotions, and your emotions control your health and sanity.
You want to avoid giving them any of what I call Mind Share. In other words, no matter what is going on around you, you are in control of your mind, and once you realize that, you will find more and more power in the situation. There are many techniques that I go into in my book in order to accomplish a clear mind that is free of thoughts of the problem, and you will probably need all of them and more. It's a real accomplishment to take your mind from something that is out picturing in front of you consistently, but it can be done.
Words are extremely powerful. In fact, every word has a vibrational frequency to it. It's been proven scientifically that positive words like love, gratitude, joy, enthusiasm, passion, etc, have much more power than the negative ones, so that is good. Create a diet of words like this for yourself. Using them will empower you. If someone asks you how your day is going, it's tempting to talk about the reality before you, but there is a greater reality within you, and words can express that reality. Here is an example of how you can turn around your verbal responses:
“Today when I woke up my neighbors were watching my every move and as I drve down the street, I saw at least 2 group stalkers watching me.”
Try changing that to:
“Today when I woke up I began to think of everything that I have to be grateful for. I am passionate about my work, I love my family. Every day above ground is a fantastic day, and I am happy to be alive.”
Even if you do not feel that way at first, keep saying words like that. In the program of Alcoholics Anonymous they have a saying, “fake it until you make it.” It's an excellent strategy and it works, so act “as if” and talk “as if.” Things will get better and better.
The real trick here is getting the emotions to line up with the words, which I will get into an upcoming article. But for now, get your words in alignment with how you actually want to feel.
3. Do Not Read or Collect Information About How Bad It Is
While I believe that you need to be informed about what is happening to you, the only reason you want to get that information is so that you can begin creating a solution for yourself. So read enough to understand the problem, but then go about finding solutions.
When I found the first web site on group stalking and began reading about it on the internet, I was somewhat relieved to gain some understanding of what was coming to me. I read everything because I wanted to be informed and educated. But I soon noticed that nobody out there was offering solutions. That discouraged me a great deal and I felt defeated. But I began seeking my own solutions. And I have gone from feeling despair, hopelessness and exhaustion to feeling great almost everyday and feeling powerful within myself.
It's a long hard road, there is no doubt, and I would be lying if I said that I never had a bad day, but who does not? And I have discovered tools and solutions that I can put to use immediately to turn it around when that happens.
I've seen much talk on the internet of group stalking being a program of state-sponsored torture, persecution and murder; part of an invisible war waged against individuals and the civil rights of “The People.” To ponder such things is a waste of time and energy. Who and why are not important. What is important is that you survive it and begin to live the life you are here to live. You do have a purpose here. Discover what gifts and talents you have to give to the world and put your attention there.
I really can not stress this enough. The more you steep in how bad the situation is, the worse it will seem, and I guarantee you, it will expand. Start looking for solutions. Expand on those things that help you. Over the centuries there have been so many unjustices to humanity, and this is certainly one of them. But think about how many have been overcome. And it simply takes a small change in your perspective. Look at what Mohatma Ghandi accomplished. One man freed an entire nation. One man! I know in my heart that if he could do it, that those of us suffering from group stalking can find a way to overcome this injustice in our society.
So in conclusion, take heart. Be bold, be courageous. Have unwavering faith. Goethe said that boldness has genius and power in it. Let it be so in your life. Start thinking about solutions instead of the problem. Do what you need to do in order to get through each day in a healthy state of mind.
I love you, thank you for joining me, MJ